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No More Lonely Weekends!
Author: The Real Bulletin
When you are faced with the prospect of yet another weekend alone, do you ever take the initiative to call someone you know and suggest a fun activity such as having coffee, or attending a movie?

Or do you always take the passive approach and hope someone else will call you? If you spend your whole life waiting for the phone to ring, hoping that someone, somewhere, will call and invite you out to do something, you are giving up control of your social life to everyone else.

Why should everyone else be in charge of your social life? Why not take control of at least part of it? You can create your own social events and invite other people to join you.

You can ask others if they'd like to come and watch television with you. You can invite people over to your place for supper. You can even host a party in your home.

If you don't want to host an activity in your home, there are thousands of possibilities right outside your doorstep, limited only by your imagination. You can organize a picnic, an outing to the zoo, or a trip to the bowling alley.

You can suggest a walk through the park, or a visit to a library or art gallery….A tennis match…..A tractor pull…..A concert…..A movie. It's up to you. You can invite people you know well, and you can include others you have only recently met. You can even ask your friends to bring some of their other friends along.

If you have never dreamed of initiating a social event on your own, is it because you are too shy? Do you fear rejection? Does the thought of initiating a social event seem terrifying to you? Is it just too different from the behavior you are used to? The more often you do it, the easier it will become.

Your social occasions don't need to be big and complicated. You can start very small, with just one or two people. You don't need to plan a big, exciting event, and it doesn't have to be perfect! If you are socially inexperienced, start off with events that are low key, but fun.

Decide how many people would be the ideal number to invite. You might be most comfortable with just one other person, or you might prefer to invite six, or twenty. You decide.

What's the worst that might happen? Are you worried that someone might say, "I wouldn't go to supper at your house if you were the last person on earth"?

That's about the worst answer you can expect. And it's not really likely. You can make the likelihood of success higher by inviting people who already seem to like you. If anyone turns you down, don't spend even one minute wondering why those people are not coming! Just concentrate on finding those people who would love to spend time with you.

Never leave your entire weekend empty just in case somebody might call. This will contribute to your boredom, loneliness and depression. The more often you invite friends and acquaintances to share evening and weekend activities with you, the more likely they will reciprocate with invitations in return. They will even look to you for social leadership.

The real winner here is you. If you learn to create your own social occasions, and invite others to enjoy them with you, never again will your social life be totally up to the whims of other people. You will be able to greatly multiply your social options. It feels good to be more in charge of your life!

This article by Royane Real is taken from her new book on making friends. Sign up for her free newsletter filled with Life Improving tips! www.royanereal.com

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The 'Real' Deal
Author: What Do You Do When the Medications Don't Work?
After exhausting most traditional medical options - general practitioners, large clinics, and specialists - local residents suffering from chronic pain may visit Michael Johnson as a last resort. Johnson, a chiropractic neurologist and clinic director for Apple Medical Clinic in Appleton, WI, makes use of a technological innovation called Real Eyes to treat his patients. Real Eyes is actually a scubalike pair of goggles with an infrared camera attached. Like a regular eye exam, he will test one eye at a time, observing movements. "It's the applications of this technology that are changing people's lives," he said. The technology remains more of a diagnostic tool than a treatment tool, particularly for patients with vertigo, migraines, and other chronic problems. Johnson sets up a video camera and tapes the eye movements of patients. He has them look into lights, follow a line and spin in a chair, among other exercises. Through it all, the camera records whether the pupil constricts and whether the eye "bounces," signaling that the brain is sending too many or not enough impulses. When the procedure is finished, Johnson plays back the video and discusses his findings with the patient. "It's an education tool," said Diane Miles, vice president of Illinois-based Micromedical Technologies, the company that makes Real Eyes. In a time when the public deems medical practitioners too busy to explain their conditions to them, Real Eyes works on the basis of doctor-patient interaction, she said. Helen Brown, 69, of Appleton, WI, went to her doctor complaining of back and leg pain. "They told me there was nothing I could do, I would just have to live with it," she said. "I saw an ad for Dr. Johnson and thought, 'I have no faith in chiropractors, but what do I have to lose?'" In March 2000, Brown saw Johnson for the first time. By June she hardly noticed a problem. "I was gardening, I was bowling, I started taking my walks again," she said. "I'm not saying we walk on water by any means," Johnson said. "But people are sure relieved afterward." He credits the technology for allowing detection of small movements that were "very hard, nearly impossible" to detect before. It has sped up the diagnosis process and therefore treatment, he said. "As cameras become smaller and smaller, we have the ability to mount them on people's eyes," Miles said. This replaces the need for practitioners to stick electrodes or other equipment on patients' faces, she said. Johnson, one of about 550 chiropractic neurologists out of 60,000 chiropractors worldwide, was attracted to the idea of Real Eyes because he practices "non-pharmaceutical-based neurology." The difference between a chiropractic neurologist and medical neurologist is that the latter prescribes drugs and performs surgical procedures. "There is a drug for vertigo, but it doesn't work for everybody," he said. "There is a pill for migraines, but that doesn't work for everybody either." With continuous reports of drug-related side effects, Johnson finds more patients seek natural healing. Chiropractors count as just one area of health practitioners that use the technology, Miles said. Micromedical also works with neurologists, ophthalmologists, physical therapists, and ear, nose, and throat doctors. Once Johnson makes his diagnosis based on the goggles, he uses techniques such as auditory and visual stimulation to treat conditions. Brown listened to a metronome, which counts beats for piano players. She now listens to classical music and watches a checkerboard pattern on half the TV screen a couple times a week. "These were some very unorthodox methods," she said. "But the pain hasn't come back." Several months after symptoms stopped, she put on the goggles to see the difference. "He went through it to show me what my brain was doing," she said.

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6 Secrets To Make Your Teen-Parent Relationship Work
Author: Adwina Jackson -
As your child approaches teen age –around 12-13 years old- you'll experience some changes in him. He will probably be out of the house more often and wants to keep his privacy from you. Other times, he may not be listening to you nor doing what you ask him.

Many parents in the world find the same troubles when dealing with their teens. Hope you don't get them. But if you do, don't worry! Keep on reading to get solutions.

Just like when you were a teenager, you wanted to spend times with your peers rather than with your parents or family, right? Your teen feels the same way, too. Making his own decision is another important thing for him besides privacy.

Now, do you think your teen is out of control and never wants to listen to you?

Don't give up! Of course you can help yourself deal with your teen. The best way to do it is to always strengthen your relationship with him. But how?

Here are the solutions:

1. Talk with him more – It's better if you start the conversation. It can be just "How was your day, buddy?" Try to discuss many things instead of interrogate him. Find interesting topics, such as sport, entertainment, friends, and school experience to make it relaxing.

2. Listen to him – If he reveals his criticism to you, listen to him and ask what he expects you to do. Talk about this wisely, not emotionally. It's good for him to be able to express the feeling.

3. Set rules for him – Your teen needs to recognize what is and isn't acceptable and what the consequences of misbehavior are. Therefore you should set, or precisely, negotiate some rules with your teen to keep him on track.

4. Consider his point of view – Regard your teen as your friend and respect his opinion whenever you discuss something. This also shows that you pay attention to him and consider him as important.

5. Encourage your teen by doing his interests and talent – Most teens like to try new things. Let yours choose what he desires, though you don't agree with it because, for example, it can endanger him. Giving him support is the best you can do, while you keep monitoring that the new activity is safe for him. Moreover, this idea is a good way of teaching your teen on how to be responsible with things he does.

6. Do things together – This one is surely a great opportunity for you to improve your relationship with your teen. Why? 'Cause you probably haven't had much time to spend with him. Arrange agenda for the whole month. In each week, make an interesting plan for you and him and get the pleasant results at the end of it.

Still about the last point above, think of exciting activities you both can do together. For example, in the first week, play video games together on Saturday, while on the next day both of you can go bowling or swimming at the beach.

Later, in the following weeks, set up enjoyable weekends by doing these: having breakfast at a popular coffee shop which makes your teen's favorite food and beverage, going fishing, going to the movie, camping, or visiting a college where your teen looks forward to join in the future.

Conclusively, warm and positive communication without underestimating your teen is a key to successful relationship between the two of you. Clearly it won't work at once. Try the tips progressively and enjoy your time being a parent of a teenager.

Article Source : http://www.articledashboard.com

Adwina Jackson is a wife and mother of a young boy. She's also the editor of Inspiring Parenting, an online source of valuable parenting information. Please visit Inspiring Parenting for helpful and free parenting info.

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Top Seven Tips for Back-to-School Success
Author: John Bishop

Parents play a critical role in their child's success. These seven tips from http://www.goalsettingforstudents.com " http://www.goalsettingforstudents.com explain how to help your child set and achieve goals for the new school year.

1. Set 30, 60 and 90-day goals - with your child. What's most important for the first 30 days? Ask your child what they plan to accomplish and help them make a plan to get there. Creating a regular routine with time for homework, chores, outside activities and free time is critical. Help your child tweak their schedule for the best way to spend their time. At the end of the first 30 days, review what worked and what didn't, and then discuss the 60 and 90-day goals.

2. Write it down. Don't just talk about goals. Have your child write them down. The act of writing down goals reinforces the message. According to John Bishop, author of the workbook, Goal Setting for Students®, "There are two great benefits to writing down goals. First, it is implanting in their minds a gentle, yet important, message that they are responsible for their day. Secondly, this exercise teaches them that they cannot simply blame others for their lack of effort."

3. Watch your language. How do you talk about school with your child? Do you praise their teachers and tell your child they can do it? Or do you complain about how hard it is and that the teacher is expecting too much? Avoid "bummer words" like no, can't, won't, never, maybe, and if. Focus on motivating words like yes, can and will.

4. Avoid excuses. Teach your child the importance of taking responsibility and minimizing excuses. Help them create a plan for big projects, breaking them down into manageable pieces with deadlines for each piece. Avoid a last-minute crisis by planning ahead and having supplies on hand. Bishop says, "Don't find fault. Find a solution."

5. Set up rewards that fit your family. As a family, discuss the best ways to recognize your successes. Be sure to recognize effort not just results. Want to encourage reading? Create a reading log, and go bowling or go for ice cream once you've reached a certain amount of reading time. Mini-rewards for regular effort can often be more effective than one large reward for the entire school year.

6. Model goal-setting. What are your goals for the next month and the remainder of the year? Track them - and show your child how you do it. Discuss with them where you are and what obstacles you have overcome. This discussion can easily lead into their goals as a student.

7. Eat together. Take time to sit down together as a family, and give each member the opportunity to talk about what's working and what's not working. Strategize solutions - with the TV turned off. A common reason families don't eat dinner together is conflicting schedules so if the dinner hour doesn't work for you, consider a family breakfast. Even checking in for 15 minutes over cereal can provide a much-needed time to connect.

With a few simple steps, parents can get their children off to a good start for the school year ahead.

Accent On Success® is a not-for-profit organization dedicated to helping students achieve success in the classroom and in life. For more information on the Goal Setting for Students® workbook, which gives students a roadmap for success, visit http://www.goalsettingforstudents.com " http://www.goalsettingforstudents.com .

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